is ILLEGAL in our country, yet young girls are still dying as a result of having
unsafe abortions.  It is so infuriating
and disheartening when very young girls are making wrong decisions even at the
point of their death!!! A 13 year old girl from Mathare slum and four months
pregnant died while being rushed to the hospital. Her mother wept painfully by
her side calling her name each minute that’s passed by. The ambulance squeezed
its self through the lanes in order to get to the hospital on time. How was her
mother feeling?? Which thoughts crossed her mind?? Who would she blame because
of the suffering her daughter was going through??? YES!! It’s obvious she had
unprotected sex unknowingly or knowingly, concealed her pregnancy from every
one and secretly tried to terminate it.  Four months and six days ago, the girl was
found howling and lying down in their flats’ stairs helplessly and in pain. Her
mother’s efforts of rushing her to the hospital bore no fruits.
May be its true you ‘reap what you sow’.
But I also agree that ‘A young girl without a mentor is like an explorer
without a map’. Maybe she was raped!! Had she had someone to talk to when she
immediately had sex, would she have died?  Maybe she lacked the simple information of not
having unprotected sex since the society supposes that talking about sex with
young people is imprudent. Why did she think of terminating the pregnancy on
the fourth month? Young women and girls in such circumstances have different
fears and reasons for their actions.
As young people, we are living in an era
that’s highly influenced
by various factors. Technology for instance, is making different
information accessible through phones, laptops
e.t.c. But sometimes we find some information
astounding or beyond our control. Peer pressure serves as another factor. Most
teens would rather blend in what’s ‘Trending’ without reflecting on the consequences of their actions. Different
environmental factors also contribute to early pregnancies for example Rape,
early marriage, poverty, and relationships.
In the case study above, the girl knew
the reason as to why she decided to have an abortion. May be she felt sorry for
herself, hated the fact that she had failed in life, didn’t have the courage of
facing and breaking the news to her parents or maybe she wanted to use that
chance as her turning point. The society has an important and critical role of
mentoring each young person. Instead of addressing them as the lost generation,
guide them by giving them a sense of direction! The government should also join
the package and introduce different ways and ideas of education young people
about sexual and reproductive health especially in schools. Last but not least,
parents being the most important people in the lives of their children should
not avoid speaking about sex with their children.

This will help us STOP per-mature deaths
of young girls, reduce early pregnancies and most
importantly keep
girls informed hence living healthy lives.

Article by 
Edith Mbuvi
Mentoring and Empowerment Camps Alumni
Group of 2013